Life changes. As much as we would like things to be constant in our lives, to follow a predictable and familiar pattern, that is rarely, if ever, the case. Some changes are self-driven, (resigning from your job and starting a new one, having a baby), others are forced upon us (the death of a family member, a new public transport timetable), no matter how comfortable we are in our daily routine and our current state of affairs, change will happen - whether we like it or not.
Small changes happen to us everyday - the weather, our hairstyle, our bus driver - these changes are generally easily navigable and are subsumed into the make up of our days without any real impact on our lives as a whole. They are accepted.
Big changes happen less frequently and are often things that rock our whole worlds. They are less easy to deal with, some require a lot of time and processing before we are able to accept them. They can be devastating and hit without warning, or they can be a cumulation of conscious decisions which result in an entirely new state of affairs.
Recently my SO and I decided to upsticks and move to the other end of the country. New jobs, new city, new house, new friends, new car - the whole shebang. Even though this big change was a deliberate and conscious decision on our part, this didn't make it any less scary. There were twists and turns with everything and a surprising amount of things to sort out and consider. It has all worked out very well, huge thanks in part to my SO who by far bore the lions share of the work. Although this change was planned, I have still felt myself going through an 'adjustment period', my brain re-wiring itself to new routines, new people and new circumstances. Starting a new job has been both nerve-wracking and exciting, settling into a new town has required taking a relaxed approach and just figuring things out along the way. We are excited to be here, and I, personally, am loving our new life. Because it has been a change that we have wanted and instigated, this has helped with accepting it and all of those small changes that go along with it.
But what about those big changes that are thrust upon us out of left field - how do we deal with them? Everyone reacts differently, but personally, I do think everyone has to face those changes head on - as unpleasant and uncomfortable as that can be. Addressing the elephant in the room makes it smaller, it allows our brains to process what has happened and while it doesn't make these events any less momentous, it helps. Allowing yourself to feel and experience those accompanying emotions is important. Feel. Breathe. Accept. In time your amazing brain will process the change and accept it as your new reality.
Change is healthy, it keeps our lives exciting, it challenges us. We find strength we never thought we had, we forge friendships in unlikely places. Change should not be something that is feared and avoided, it should be welcomed (for the most part) and embraced. Accepting change in life is important, its not always comfortable, but it is necessary and being open to being accepting can make the road that much smoother.
Love, Health and Happiness,
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